As I prepare to welcome my first baby to the world I have come to realize that there are a lot of things I don’t know. And I mean a lot!! Don’t get me wrong I never thought having a baby would be easy, but there are a million decisions to make. Should we use cloth or disposable diapers? Is it safe to buy a used crib? How much caffeine can I drink? What exercises aren’t safe anymore? The list literally goes on and on.
I’ve always considered myself very resourceful but when it comes to all this baby stuff I find myself completely overwhelmed. But still, I find it hard to admit that I don’t have all the answers. It made me think, “Why is it so hard to ask for help?”
After talking to my friends that are pregnant or have babies, I came to understand that this is a common problem. Could it be that our pride tells us that we need to figure it out ourselves and that asking someone for help is a sign of weakness? I’ve often thought to myself, “There are a lot of people out there that need help, but I’m not one of them.” But the more I think about it, the more I wonder why I feel that way? How am I supposed to know all the answers?
A recent survey done in Alberta showed that only 15% of parents attend parenting classes. To me that’s a sign that too many parents out there are feeling the same way I am, a little lost, but afraid to look stupid by asking for help. The same survey also showed that 90% relied on doctors and their most often used resource for information about their child. I found that a little frightening considering how little time I actually spend in my doctors office; there is no way they can provide all the answers!
Knowing this made me curious to know what resources are available the Edmonton-area for parents. What I found was there are tons of great groups and programs out there. I also noticed that many of the groups are very informal so they are less intimidating. The best part is they give parents an opportunity to meet other parents so they can learn from each other’s experiences. I love to socialize with others so if I can meet new people and be able to ask questions in a non-threatening environment that is the most appealing option for me.
I hate to admit it, but I guess I am “one of those people” who needs help. Who doesn’t?
Some a few of the agencies that offer parenting classes and supports in the Edmonton-area: