Going through a major life change is always easier when you know someone who’s going through the same thing. That’s why I was ecstatic (and totally floored) when I learned that my boss was pregnant too, and due 10 days before me! Although the Director of our department almost fell out of his chair (in shock and delight I’m sure), I was so thankful that I had someone to share my experience with. I never realized how many questions I would have and how much reassurance I would need on a daily basis. It is not uncommon for me to walk into her office three, four, maybe five times a day to talk to her about something pregnancy related like, “Sometimes when you stand up does it feel like your stomach muscles are tearing in half?” or “How much do you love these maternity pants?!” I am also very grateful that I am not the only one who has to leave meetings two or three times to go to the bathroom…haha. What makes my boss so special is that no matter what my concern or how busy she is, she always takes the time to listen to me ramble on.
Although I have many friends who have had children and a mother who had four, I could never truly relate to their experiences. I guess I am one of those people who needs to go through something for myself before I can truly appreciate a situation. What I’ve learned so far is that although pregnancy is a beautiful and wonderful experience it has its downsides: the leg cramps, the back pain, sleepless nights due to kicking babies, not to mention the thought of actually going through childbirth. So it’s definitely comforting to have someone around who shares the same joys and fears as me. I also realize that not everyone is interested in talking about pregnancy and babies all time so it’s nice to have an outlet for my new preoccupation.
I guess what I’m trying to say is thank you to my boss (and friend) for being there for me. After attending United Way’s campaign kick-off yesterday, I realized that just a simple thank you can mean so much! Sometimes we all get so preoccupied with our daily lives that we forget to thank the people who make a positive difference in our lives. So in honour of our campaign kick-off, I challenge you to reach out to someone who needs a friend - whether it is a co-worker, family member or someone who’ve just met. We all need support sometimes – who knows when it might be you!