Safety, Community and Belonging

Safety, Community and Belonging

A place to feel safe—and to belong. After fleeing an abusive relationship, Dawn worried she might never be able to get the fresh start she so desperately needed. She felt overwhelmed, alone and hopeless and couldn’t imagine a better future for herself. “I didn’t think my life was going to improve,” she says.

 

After moving to a new community in Winnipeg’s north end, Dawn connected with the Andrews Street Family Centre, a family resource centre supported by United Way donors like you. There, she found what she was seeking: safety, belonging and love. “I made connections with good people,” says Dawn. “When I discovered that I was worth something, a whole new world of possibilities opened up.”

The centre—a hub of activity and a vital community resource for local residents—made Dawn and her family feel welcome. She and her grandchildren shared community meals, including soup and bannock lunches, with others at the centre. Soon, Dawn was inspired to give back, and used her skills to connect members of her local community with work opportunities at the centre.

Today, Dawn works as a preschool teacher there and helps children, many of whom share her Indigenous heritage, get a good start in life. It’s a safe and happy place where kids, families and local residents can access all the vital, wraparound supports they need to thrive, including nutritious meals, and Indigenous language and cultural learning. “We help plant the seeds of success,” says Dawn. “I want kids to develop a love of learning so they’ll do better when they get to kindergarten—and to develop skills that will help them throughout their lives.”

 

Dawn’s sense of hopelessness is long gone. She’s full of ambition and plans for a future she once believed was impossible. The help she received at the centre—and the role she’s learned she can play in the lives of others—has given her a sense of worth and belonging. “When we help each other out, we can make a big difference. That’s the definition of community.”

A Life Changing Meal

 

Alasdair has worked in the food and hospitality industry for much of his life. So when he lost his job as a server due to an alcohol addiction, worries about where his next meal would come weren’t far from his mind. In fact, they became a daily and stressful reality. “For a while, money was really tight,” says Alasdair. “But then it got to a point where I couldn’t even afford food.”

Like many people living in poverty, Alasdair felt helpless and afraid for the future.

I was lost and I didn’t know what was going on.
My self-esteem was completely shot.
- Alasdair

 

But sometimes, help can come in unexpected ways. It was during a walk though his local neighbourhood that he decided to stop by an agency supported by United Way. There, he connected with a community meal program that offers people living in poverty two nutritious meals a day.

Those first meals inspired Alasdair to keep coming back. Soon, he began using other services offered at the agency and he also started to make friends at the centre.  Gradually, his confidence grew and an opportunity to volunteer in the kitchen came knocking.

“I knew my way around a kitchen because I had worked at restaurants my whole life,” he says. “I was so grateful for the food, so I thought the least I could do was help out. I started feeling better right away. Volunteering showed me that I could improve my situation and give back at the same time.”

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You can help people like Alasdair

With his newfound confidence and improved skills, Alasdair recently landed a job as a custodian at a local community centre. But despite a busy full-time schedule, he still volunteers at the agency because he understands just how life-changing healthy meals served with compassion can be. “For people living in poverty, including those struggling with mental health issues or homelessness, a healthy meal is really important to their well-being,” he says. “But sharing a meal means a lot, too. It makes people feel better about themselves—and it builds a real community.”

 

A recipe for community change, thanks to donors like you.

 

Can We End Poverty?

Ask the Expert

Daniyal Zuberi is the RBC Chair and Associate Professor of Social Policy at the Factor-Inwentash Faculty of Social Work and School of Public Policy & Governance at the University of Toronto. In 2015, he was elected to the College of New Scholars, Artists and Scientists of the Royal Society of Canada. He was previously the William Lyon Mackenzie King Research Fellow at Harvard University.

His innovative social policy research has made important contributions to the study of urban poverty, inequality, health, education, employment and social welfare. He has authored three books and other publications that examine the impact of public policy on vulnerable and disadvantaged populations in Canada and the United States. We spoke with Daniyal for our ‘Ask the Expert’ series to provide a big-picture lens on poverty across North America. 

 

What are some of the common drivers that contribute to poverty across North America, whether in Winnipeg or Washington?

Poverty in North America is multi-faceted, affecting many individuals, families, and communities. The real cause of poverty is the lack of income. Many people are working longer and harder simply to tread water, living only one or two missed paycheques away from major financial hardship.

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With the explosion of precarious employment, too many households struggle to balance work and family life requirements as individuals take on multiple jobs to make ends meet and deal with the stress and anxiety of supporting their families. A job is no longer enough and they struggle as the “working poor” trying to find affordable housing and childcare for their families. 

For those unable to find work, they receive very limited support. Most of these individuals can’t access employment insurance benefits due to program restrictions. They join tens of thousands of others on waitlists for housing assistance and subsidized childcare as well as heavily-subscribed charitable programs such as food banks. Instead of helping and enabling these individuals and families, we trap them in poverty, failing to provide the training, support and education they need to upgrade their skills and find secure living-wage employment.

 

How have changing labour market conditions, including precarious employment, impacted poverty?

The changing labour market is a major contributor to growing poverty in North America. With a shift away from manufacturing to the service sector in a globalized economy, we’ve seen a rapid expansion of precarious employment including poverty wage, part-time, and insecure jobs that fail to lift individuals and families above the poverty line.

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Our employment protections and social welfare policies have failed to evolve to protect people from poverty in this new economy. When hours are cut or workers are laid off, many can’t receive support from employment insurance because they haven’t worked enough hours to qualify. It’s important to note that these changes do not affect all workers equally. Women and racialized minorities, especially new immigrants, are the most likely to work in these precarious jobs. They’re forced to make impossible tradeoffs between working extra hours, but spending more on childcare, paying for rent or food. This is true in both Canada and the United States.

 

Is there a single, best way to tackle poverty? If not, what are some common solutions we should be working towards?

No, I don’t think there’s a single solution. We need to continue to promote proactive policies and programs to prevent poverty and support struggling individuals and families. For example, we can raise social assistance rates to bring those households up above the poverty line.

Expanding access to high-quality early childhood education will increase maternal employment and incomes by sending more mothers into the workplace, generating greater tax revenue and also reducing poverty. The research is clear that “housing first” and harm reduction approaches are far more effective than punitive measures to address problems such as homelessness and addiction. The latter results in an extremely expensive, reactive system where we end up spending more than required for policing, incarceration, hospitalization, and shelter services. We also need to focus on issues like raising the minimum wage, addressing a growing mental health crisis and providing individuals, including youth, with the training and support they need to find good jobs. Solutions at the local level are also important and include investments in high quality transit and community infrastructure. These include things like community hubs and health centres, parks, and community gardens that can really improve the quality of life for people in low-income neighbourhoods. These programs, along with significant policy reforms, could work together to reduce poverty quite dramatically.

 

What is the role of the non-profits like United Way in mitigating the effects of poverty?

We have a healthy and vibrant social services sector. We need to continue to build on that and expand it. United Way and other organizations do great work in providing services and supports for vulnerable and at-risk populations.

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United Way does a particularly great job of raising awareness of important issues like precarious employment through its research. It also brings together coalitions to mobilize, to advocate for policy reforms and new programs and to fundamentally address some of the root causes of poverty with the goal of eradicating it.

 

Can we end poverty?

Absolutely, yes. Fundamentally we have to understand that we can end poverty if we have the political will. There are many places in the world—including Scandinavian countries—that have largely eliminated poverty. But it’s still extremely rare. Canada has done a lot more in terms of supporting those living on a low income and reducing poverty compared to the United States where we’ve seen a lot of cutbacks and a really rapid increase in deep poverty. Although there is a long way to go, I don’t think we should ever lose hope. I think, in fact, this is an important reminder why this work is so tremendously important. We can’t stop fighting to improve the quality of life for people living in poverty.  

Unique Stories Displayed Through Art

City employee, Elizabeth Halpin, is turning a night of terror into triumph by sharing her story. In 2012, she was sexually assaulted in a violent attack, but today, she is determined to reach out to others in need of help.

As one of seven local stories of triumph featured on the United Way’s “It Looks Like Me” art installation, Elizabeth is helping show United Way supporters what their donation looks like and let survivors of assault know that they are not alone. Elizabeth has spoken at numerous workplaces to share her story of how reaching out for help likely saved her life after struggling with PTSD, panic attacks, and agoraphobia.

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"Without United Way, I     wouldn't have been able to access the therapy I needed.  I would probably still be afraid to leave my house and definitely would not be working here today." 

Elizabeth

Now, her photo is displayed proudly beside portraits of Mike, Danny, Nicole, Kim, Lincoln, and Sarah, all individuals in the Alberta Capital Region who have overcome seemingly insurmountable obstacles in their lives after connecting with a United Way supported program.

Each unique shape in the installation represents us and our individual stories, and demonstrates that each person is needed to support the other. The interactive installation aims to help viewers see that each of us has the power to transform the life of someone in need and to also have our life be transformed by the support of a caring community. It shows that a community champion can look like each of us!

“My goal was to create an immersive experience,” Sean Thompson, the piece’s designer explained. “I hope that viewers leave inspired and informed.”

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The installation was made possible by the sponsorship of PDQ Signs, Signworks Plus, and Mindcore Interactive.

It will be available for public viewing at the Edmonton Tower’s main lobby, 10111 - 104 Avenue, until October 27th.

Viewers are invited to take photos with the installation and post their personal story of triumph using the hashtag #UWACR2017.

Would you like to display the installation in your workplace for your United Way Campaign? Please call 780-990-1000.

The Benefits of Eating Together

It's Good For Your Health

Imagine there was one simple thing you could do to ensure your kids ate less junk food and got better grades, your parents stayed more socially connected and you felt less stressed. Sounds like magic, right? Actually, it’s something a bit more commonplace than that: dinner.

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Though researchers aren’t sure exactly why it works, several studies have found a connection between eating a meal together and our physical and mental health. The advantages seem particularly strong for kids, who benefit from seeing healthy eating habits and positive communication modelled at the dinner table, but, according to Twyla Nichols, the coordinator of YWCA Halifax’s Food First program, we all stand to gain something when we make time to eat together. “When you sit down and eat, you’re relaxing,” she notes. “You slow down.”

 

Decreases Social Isolation

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This is especially true for seniors, who tend to be at a higher risk for social isolation. Social dining or communal meals can help them feel more connected taking the focus off eating and placing it on conversation, community and enjoyment. 

Jimmy Morrison, Community Relations Supervisor, with Operation Friendship Seniors Society, in Edmonton, has seen some of the benefits firsthand. "Many of the seniors that visit the agency don't have family," says Jimmy, "but there is a sense of family here. The clients look out for each other and make lasting friendships." They enjoy talking, playing games, and having meals with other seniors and community members. Holiday meals are sponsored by the Kinsmen Club of Edmonton and Kinette Club of Edmonton. It really benefits the seniors because they have a place where they feel at home where there is companionship and a warm meal. Jimmy says, "Often I hear clients tell me it's nice to know people care about them." 

 

Join a Local Community Dinner 

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Learn more about how food security affects all Canadians on the Food Secure Canada website. If you or someone you know is struggling with food security, visit Food Banks Canada to find one near you.

If you’d like to help serve a community meal, volunteer to prepare and serve a meal at one of United Way's community partner agencies, please contact Judy, Volunteer Coordinator by calling 780-990-1000. 

3 Ways to Spend More Time With Seniors

As we age, one of the biggest threats to our independence is social isolation. And the need to keep seniors mentally engaged in their communities has never been greater.

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Connecting with seniors provides a meaningful—and mutual—learning experience—and it doesn’t take much. Here are three things you can do to connect:

1. Be a good neighbour

You can be part of a “natural system of social support” which means you’re getting involved not because it’s your job, but because you genuinely care about your neighbours. For instance, if you’re going to the grocery store, pop by to check in on a senior down the street to see if he or she could use a carton of milk. 

2. Leverage your skills

Think about what you do best and use your skills as a way to get involved. Great at knitting? Start a club at a local seniors’ residence or community centre. If you’re an accountant, set up a financial planning clinic for older people. Using your own interests as a starting point for volunteering makes the experience more meaningful for everyone. 

3. Strike the right balance

It’s not always about doing things for seniors; it’s about doing things with them. Often the best relationships start with providing a service (such as shopping, yard work, minor repairs or transportation) in order to develop a more meaningful relationship. These types of services help build rapport and from there, it can be about spending time together doing puzzles, talking, having tea, or going for a walk. 

Want to help the seniors in your neighbourhood?

Contact Volunteer Alberta, search your local area and find out if there are volunteers needed to provide services to seniors, including light yard work, transportation, snow shovelling and regular social visits.

Empowering Our Community - Enbridge United Way Community Investment Project

A Safe Place; A Shelter for Abused Women and their Children, in Strathcona County, was the recipient of the Enbridge Community Investment Project. As a United Way funded partner, they received a one-time $50,000 gift from Enbridge, as well as the volunteer expertise of Enbridge employees to lead a project to make much needed upgrades to their office space.

Enbridge’s long-time partnership with United Way extends back to 1969. In that time, Enbridge and its employees have empowered our community through multiple community renovations projects like this one, as well as, jointly contributing over $15 million to local Alberta Capital Region programs and services.

As a result of Enbridge’s outstanding contribution, the shelter received: 

  • A renovated storage room with upgraded shelving units;
  • A renovated staff office;
  • Installation of televisions and new bedding in each of the client rooms;
  • Furniture for the shelter's expansion into a new unit which offers second stage housing;
  • Custom artwork provided to the shelter from an Enbridge employee who is also a local artist 

The impact of this project will provide staff with greater capacity to help residents, as well as, improve the living environment making it more inviting and enjoyable for women and children in a time of crisis.

Thank you to Enbridge and Enbridge employees for your tremendous commitment to our community.

A Safe Place

A Safe Place provides emergency accommodation for women and their children fleeing domestic violence. They provide 24 hour crisis support, for up to 21 days, including counselling, child care, emergency transportation, and outreach services. A Safe Place also offers a phone line for people experiencing violence, elder abuse and for victims of human trafficking.  

In 2016, A Safe Place supported 727 clients (including 369 children and youth) from Strathcona County, Fort Saskatchewan, Edmonton and surrounding areas. In addition, over 2,000 calls were answered on their crisis line. Visit http://asafeplace.website/

Alarmingly, the number of reported cases of domestic violence continues to increase in our region. In 2016, there were approximately 8,715 events throughout the city that had a domestic violence component.  Alberta leads the provinces in incidences of domestic assault, homicide-suicide, and stalking and has the third highest number of domestic homicides.  At least one in four children in Alberta will witness their mother being abused and 70% of those children are also abused.  (Source: Edmonton Police Service and Today Family Violence Centre.)  

Community Investment Projects

United Way identifies the needs in the community, convenes partners, such as Enbridge, and acts as a project liaison in the spirit of collaboration and for the purpose of achieving positive outcomes for vulnerable populations. 

Lifted Up

Iman was born and raised in Edmonton, Alberta to immigrant parents who moved to Canada from Tunisia, North Africa. She is a first generation Canadian and extremely proud of her heritage and the opportunity her parents have given her by immigrating to Canada to raise their family.

Two months before her seventh birthday, Iman witnessed her father brutally murder her mother.

Iman’s father was sentenced to 25 years in prison and Iman was put into foster care. She spent the next 12 years living with four different families in 10 different homes and attended 10 different schools.

Even though I never knew the strangers that were helping us, I was forever grateful for them and what they brought to our home.
— Iman
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You can help people like Iman.

In the foster home that Iman lived with the longest, her guardians were addicted to drugs and alcohol and suffered from mental illness. Iman spent many days and nights feeling the pain of hunger. They relied on welfare and the food bank to survive. “Even though I never knew the strangers that were helping us, I was forever grateful for them and what they brought to our home” says Iman.

Upon reaching adulthood, Iman knew she needed to make a choice to either allow her circumstance to rule her or to create the fulfilled life she desperately longed for. After investing in years of education, therapy, counseling and coaching, Iman has been able to create a life filled with success, happiness, abundance, gratitude and forgiveness.

Today, Iman is a transformational speaker, empowerment trainer, published author and Certified Grief Recovery Specialist. Her memoir, “Cracked Open – Never Broken” will be available November 2017. Through sharing her own story of trauma and triumph she hopes to inspire the lives of others and spark the possibility for greatness that lies within us all.

Back on Track

Kim was diagnosed with postpartum. “You struggle with the guilt and the feeling that you should be grateful to have this little bundle, but it’s all in your mind. Even though the external might look happy to everyone else, inside you’re dealing with hormonal changes and mental changes—you’re learning how to be a mom. I almost had to mourn the loss of my old self. Your number one isn’t you anymore; it’s now this little person.”

Kim and her husband decided to move to St. Albert to set down some roots close to her husband’s job. “I thought I could integrate myself into a new city and do it on my own, but sadly, the postpartum reared its ugly head again and obviously it hadn’t really gone away,” says Kim. 

Today, I know I’m not alone and I’m the confident, loving mom I want to be.
— Kim
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You can help local families like Kim and her daughter Quinn. 

Then she remembered there was a Family Resource Centre in St. Albert and looked them up. This was the phone call that changed her life. “They sent someone to my house because they actually do home visits, which is nice when you’re feeling really low. So somebody came to my house, we talked and cried, and she met my daughter. She encouraged me to come to the St. Albert Family Resource Centre and to their parent group. It’s kind of like A.A. for parents.” 

This drop in program provides parenting advice and support around a variety of topics including potty-training, sleeping, in-laws, and things that you want to talk about in a safe place. It’s been two and a half years now and I am still going”, says Kim.

“The support is like family,” says Kim. “It helps to bond with a group who can relate with what you’re feeling. When you hear other people tell their story and you can relate, all of a sudden that feeling of ‘it’s only me and I’m failing as a mom,’ that isolation gets lifted because you don’t feel alone in this and you feel you’ll get through the challenges.“

A New Beginning

As a young man Danny’s home life was in disarray. Danny and his brother ran away and joined the circus. He learned many new skills and trades during his 12 years. “I learned how to be an electrician, painter, a sheet metal person, a truck driver,” he says. “I learned how to trust people and I learned self-esteem. I was really good with numbers and I could understand blueprints fairly easily. I could build almost anything. I didn’t have to read.”

But as he got older Danny found he struggled because he couldn’t read. His wife suggested he connect with the Project Adult Literacy Society (PALS) in Edmonton. P.A.L.S. is a not-for-profit organization that helps adult learners improve their reading, writing, speaking, and math skills. It has operated in Edmonton for over 35 years.

Learning how to read later in life was a big challenge, but Danny was motivated. He had just completed a detox program. “If I was going to survive I needed to be able to understand the AA literature.”

A local adult literacy program connected me with a tutor and the inspiration to learn.
— Danny
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You can help local people like Danny. 

Danny now helps others to open doors through literacy. “The rewarding part now is being associated with P.A.L.S. and United Way,” says Danny. “There are so many adults like me out there who need help. Just helping one person really means a lot to me.”

Danny says he receives as much back from the program as he puts into it. “We were in a program the other day and the guy in front of me said, ‘I just want to read like Danny.’ I can’t tell you how that hit me.”

Danny Haines is one of the 2017 Faces of the United Way and has been featured in previous United Way poster series’ before. The United Way of the Alberta Capital Region is proud to work with this tremendous advocate for literacy and community wellness.

As a young man Danny’s home life was in disarray. Danny and his brother ran away and joined the circus. He learned many new skills and trades during his 12 years. “I learned how to be an electrician, painter, a sheet metal person, a truck driver,” he says. “I learned how to trust people and I learned self-esteem. I was really good with numbers and I could understand blueprints fairly easily. I could build almost anything. I didn’t have to read.”

But as he got older Danny found he struggled because he couldn’t read. His wife suggested he connect with the Project Adult Literacy Society (PALS) in Edmonton. P.A.L.S. is a not-for-profit organization that helps adult learners improve their reading, writing, speaking, and math skills. It has operated in Edmonton for over 35 years.

Learning how to read later in life was a big challenge, but Danny was motivated. He had just completed a detox program. “If I was going to survive I needed to be able to understand the AA literature.”

Paying it Forward

Elizabeth was sexually assaulted in the spring of 2012. "It was pretty violent, pretty scary. I had a lot of problems after – post-traumatic stress disorder, anxiety, I was even afraid to leave my house." After the assault, attending one-on-one and group counselling sessions helped Elizabeth recover. She did two rounds of group therapy at the Sexual Assault Centre of Edmonton, and then took part in one-on-one sessions with one of the facilitators. This process lasted for almost two years.

When she felt strong enough, she decided to share her story with others. “I wanted to be able to use my voice to help other people find the help that they need.”

“I thought that people needed a face and a name that they can relate to. Once I went public with my story then I’m someone that people know – I’m the friend, I’m the friend of a friend – it humanizes it because it’s easy to feel so far removed from the faces in the public.”

There were a lot of people along the way who pointed me to the Edmonton Sexual Assault Centre, but it took a little while for me to actually be ready for it.
— Elizabeth
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You can help people like Elizabeth.

United Way funds the Sexual Assault Centre’s client services so Elizabeth was able to access therapy for free. “I was in an okay financial place before this ordeal but I had to quit one of my jobs and I went through all of my benefits very quickly because I needed therapy three times a week, and it adds up so fast,” says Elizabeth.

Elizabeth speaks about her recovery saying, “Edmonton is such a good place and I feel that the community came together to help me out in a big way, and I really want to pay it forward.” She commends the wonderful police and detectives, the intake nurse at the hospital, the people at her work, friends and family for their support. And she thanks United Way saying, “This organization really impacted my lift.”

As a Community Impact Speaker for United Way, Elizabeth travels to organizations and groups that are doing fundraising and shares her story to show firsthand some of the work that United Way supports.

What does your donation look like?
It looks like me.

Finding Purpose

In 2001 Lincoln began experiencing vision loss. And with that came feelings of anger, denial, grief and loss.

In 2006, Lincoln connected with The Canadian National Institute for the Blind (CNIB). “CNIB showed me the assisted technology for people with vision loss and that’s how I got started and that’s when I decided to work towards something.” In 2007 CNIB suggested that Lincoln enroll in NorQuest College, working towards a degree in social work. He started listening to books on tape and learned Braille. “That’s when I got involved with the United Way public speaking and I really got on to the idea of helping people and telling my story. People would shake my hand and tell me I am very inspirational so that helped build my confidence and from there, I flourished.”

As hard as it was, with support I found hope and purpose.
— Lincoln
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You can help people like Lincoln

Lincoln is a natural helper and speaks about how much more comfortable he is in his skin now as a social worker than when he was a rig hand. “I do speaking for the United Way because one of the reasons I'm here is because of the supports that were available to me. CNIB showed me what I could do.”

Lincoln gives back by working with aboriginal counselling services where the majority of participants are aboriginal. “They can relate to me and I can relate to having to overcome obstacles, so when they hear my story it allows them to see how I’ve changed and makes them think that they can change too. It shows them that we have troubles in life, but we can get through them.”

“I believe this is where I’m supposed to be now, as a social worker helping people,” Lincoln says. “I’m a completely different person than I was — I feel now that I can have a conversation with anyone. Everything has lead me up until this point.”

Hope for the Future

When Mike learned he was going to be a parent, he decided to quit school, find a job and move in with his girlfriend. He was determined to provide for his family and found the Terra Centre. “Young dads very much feel judged by the community. Our work is to help them engage in parenthood and show them that they can really make a difference in their children’s lives”, says Karen Mottershead from the Terra Centre.

Mike and his family received help to find housing and quality child care. The Terra Centre has run a program for teen dads since 2000. Last year, it served more than 100 young fathers. The agency provides male support workers for male clients through its Services for Young Dads. It also supplies daily necessities for young families, such as bus tickets, diapers and infant clothing.

I have the support I need to keep my family together and I have hope for the future.
— Mike
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You can help families like Mike and Treyson.

Mike lives with his with his fiancée, his five-year-old son Treyson and his younger child, a daughter named Selena and also volunteers for programs that support young fathers in our community.

As a budding hip-hop artist, Mike has written a piece entitled "A Better Life."   

Lyrics to A Better Life - Mikey Moze

[verse 1]
Everyday I sit and wonder
how I keep from going under
I just look at my son I don't make moves that are blunder
hear the thunder when I get mad
glad I never met my dad
I will give my son things I never had
as I sit in this pad in this building
just sitting chilling reminiscing about my feelings
seeing my son as a child as he's napping
and smile how can something so amazing happen
he's part of the reason I keep on rapping
my heart is in control I am the captain
of my own whip managed to flip the scripts
I will take you on a trip on my magic swirling ship
and if you cant see that shit
then I can understand why your hand can't firmly hold a grip
of the handle's of life's roller coaster
battling emotions that are boiling over
going over every hurdle every obstacle
feeling so unstoppable

[chorus]
I dream of a better life
each night till the break of light
I smile thru the bitter strife
only one day to a better life
only one day and its a better life
a better life... for you and me
for you and...

[verse 2] 
I just gotta make that money by any means necessary
even if I gotta get a job as a cook, rapper, or a mercenary
or maybe something just temporary
so I don't have to worry about putting food in the fridge
for my wife and my kids
I will do anything just to provide
have them by my side make life bonafide
to be happy by a lake have a crib
show'em how that other life really is
how they live how they get over the bridge
just to see my family forever happily is my objective
its my plan now lets make it effective
its just my perspective im a little over protective
im surrounded by my possessions
fruits of my material obsession's
is making me feel the stressin'

[chorus]

[verse 3]
in order to survive I just gotta lead a better life
prove that I need to make it right
do good and not bleed and get sucked dry from these nasty parasite's
despite I got got pushed down I can barely see the light
I just might have to fight my way out of the bitterness of night
I just follow the word of god feel his palm guiding me and leading me away from strife
like he did adam and eve on that fateful night when they got tricked by the snake that deceives
wolves in sheeps clothing
told her to take the apple from the tree not knowing if its poison
suffering from paranoia hearing voices
be a man and make some choices
be the real macoy and deploy some focus
in your brain battling thoughts night and day
seems the more I earn the more I gotta pay 

[chorus]
 

The Power of Love

The Power of Love

Sarah’s childhood memories aren’t the kinds of memories that most little girls have. She doesn’t have memories of sitting around a dinner table with her family. She barely remembers eating. “I don’t have memories of my mom making sure I was okay or taking care of me. By the age of six, I was removed from my parents’ care,” says Sarah.

Living for Tomorrow

Nicole’s relationship with money was rocky from the start. Growing up, she struggled with her weight and became the target of bullies at school. “Money was equal to my self-worth, and my self-worth was nothing,” she says.

Nicole left high school after becoming a young mother and turned to drugs to help cope. Her addiction even led to some time in jail.

While she was there, Nicole made the decision to turn her life around, embracing a more positive, hopeful and healthy future that didn’t include drugs or alcohol. Shortly after her release, a friend connected her to a United Way financial education program—Empower U—that teaches financial literacy skills to women living in poverty.  She decided to give it a try. “I’d always been a ‘no’ person,” says Nicole, “but this time I chose to say ‘yes’ and it changed my life.”

Now money isn’t scary. It can empower my life. My past can be fixed—by me.
— Nicole
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You can help women like Nicole.

The program helped Nicole manage her finances and set her up in a matched-savings program, where she was required to contribute $50 a month. At first, putting aside that amount seemed impossible, but she rose to the challenge.

Learning to save consistently was about far more than money: it was about making peace with her past and taking control of her future. Nicole is grateful to United Way donors like you for helping her get started—and putting her on the path to financial security and life-long success. “Now money isn’t scary,” she says. “It can empower my life. My past can be fixed—by me.”

Today, Nicole lives in social housing and has a stable job where she is saving up to help purchase a home.  

She’s also using her experience to give back to other women in her community who have experienced similar challenges. “I’m so excited to help others take control of their lives and to be part of helping them build more secure futures.”

Investing in herself—thanks to the support of donors like you—has paid dividends for Nicole and other women in the community. “I like who I am today and I’m confident about my tomorrow,” she says.

Faces of United Way: Gurston

“When I participated in United Way’s poverty simulation, it was a real eye opener.  I was so impressed with it that I thought it would be good to support it by volunteering for it. Basically everybody is given a role, which includes a set of circumstances that are challenging, and they have to work through an imaginary four weeks in the life of a person who is on the edge of poverty. So we’re not talking about the people who simply lack the skills to enter the workplace in any sense, rather these are people on the edge of poverty, who are living paycheck to paycheck. The simulation includes them experiencing some kind of challenge that just tips them over the financial edge and interacting with community agencies to try to get together a plan so that they can live financially secure lives.”

“I think it’s a very useful kind of exercise for people because I think there’s a general assumption that poverty tells you more about the individual than about their circumstances. Sure, sometimes people make poor decisions, but often times they lose their job through no fault of their own, or they have illness or family responsibilities.”

“When I participated in United Way’s poverty simulation, my role was that of a forty-two year-old grandfather of a one-year-old so I had to juggle child-care and a kind of marginal job. In this kind of marginal job, if the child is ill for a week, is the job still going to be there when you come back? Then it’s the round of charitable agencies and social services, so it changes your thinking about how people become and stay poor, and it also shows you the impact of social agencies being under supported. So, part of the idea of the simulation is that it’s hard to get to see your social worker and the charitable organization just doesn’t have enough money. If you have $600 worth of bills, they can give you $50; so, that’s not a business plan. It’s really an enlightening kind of exercise. It also shows the difficulty of being poor, the frustration, the loss of self-confidence, and all of those negative feelings. It’s a useful thing, and they have to have volunteers to run it, so I do that. I’m retired now. I can do it.”

“People don’t understand the demoralization of living in poverty — that this is a painful experience for people. You know, they can’t make their way in the world and when they have people who depend on them and they aren’t able to deliver for their loved ones, that’s really difficult—the feelings of frustration that the exercise creates.”


To commemorate the 75th anniversary of the United Way of the Alberta Capital Region we've partnered with Faces of Edmonton. In the coming months, Faces of Edmonton will be featuring faces and stories relating to the United Way and its work in your community. We’re looking forward to sharing these portraits and stories with you. To learn more about United Way's work check out the Report to Community online.

Faces of United Way: Kim and Quinn

“Having children is such a huge transition. You can feel so isolated and alone and there’s no going back. I mean they’re worth it and you made them, so you struggle with the guilt and the feeling that you should be grateful to have this little bundle, but it’s all in your mind—it’s something going on inside of you even though the external might look happy to everyone else, inside you’re dealing with hormonal changes and mental changes—you’re learning how to be a mom. I almost had to mourn the loss of my old self. Your number one isn’t you anymore; it’s now this little person.”

“I wish there were more Family Resource Centres throughout the city. They have great programs. I started taking my daughter there when she was two and it opened up her world because she got to interact with other kids. Then last year she went to play school there. The support is like family. It helps to bond with a group who can relate with what you’re feeling. When you hear other people tell their story and you can relate, all of a sudden that feeling of ‘it’s only me and I’m failing as a mom,’ that isolation gets lifted because you don’t feel alone in this and you feel you’ll get through the challenges.“

“I was diagnosed with postpartum and my doctor recommended that I go to the Family Resource Centre in Mill Woods and get hooked up with the postpartum mom’s group called Managing Motherhood. So I did that. Then we decided to move to St. Albert to set down some roots close to my husband’s job, so we came here and for five months I struggled. I thought I could integrate myself into a new city and do it on my own, but sadly, the postpartum reared it’s ugly head again and obviously it hadn’t really gone away. I remembered there was a Family Resource Centre group here. I looked them up and made a phone call and that changed my life. They sent someone to my house because they actually do home visits, which is nice when you’re feeling really low. So somebody came to my house, we talked and cried, and she met my daughter. She encouraged me to come to the St. Alberta Family Resource Centre and to their parent group. It’s kind of like A.A. for parents. It’s a drop-in thing. There’s a group leader and we talk about different things like potty-training, sleeping, in-laws, and things that you want to talk about in a safe place. So I started going to that and I’ve been going ever since. It’s been two and a half years now.”

“I made a lot of friends at the centre and that was a huge thing. When we moved out here we didn’t see our friends as much as we used to. So making friends here helped a lot. I didn’t realize that it was what I was missing. You think Facebook might suffice and it might for some people, but I really need that human connection.”


To commemorate the 75th anniversary of the United Way of the Alberta Capital Region we've partnered with Faces of Edmonton. In the coming months, Faces of Edmonton will be featuring faces and stories relating to the United Way and its work in your community. We’re looking forward to sharing these portraits and stories with you. To learn more about United Way's work check out the Report to Community online.

Faces of United Way: Andy

“Balwin is a school with a highly socially vulnerable population, lots of poverty, lots of trauma, lots of refugees. And so because of that population, United Way is involved with Edmonton public in a number of ways, mainly through the Family Centre, E4C, Tools for School and in many other ways. They built the park at the back of the school as part of their day of caring. So the United Way has had a huge impact on improving the lives of our kids and taking them out of that cycle of poverty. We have so many supports in this school that other schools just don’t have because the United Way funds organizations that can come into the school and provide therapy, provide success coaching, and provide individuals to go into homes and support to end that cycle.”

“We’ve got kids who have come from refugee camps, so things like getting those kids to line up is a challenge because for them what they saw in a line up was, I’m going to have to beat my neighbour to get to the rice—it’s trauma inducing. So in this school we have to address our processes and how we do things because we can traumatize the kids just by doing stuff that we take for granted … United Way is supporting us in making sure that we can address those things and that we are looking at things proactively from a position of love … What we have here is a community coming together to make sure that kids can succeed.”

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“These kids are lucky. If they’re not getting a meal at home, they’re getting one here because the school is supported by E4C, which is funded by the United Way. A kid doesn’t go hungry here so learning can happen and then they can give back and end the cycle of poverty for themselves. United Way evens out opportunities so many ways: whether it’s food or social or emotional, ending trauma … and they don’t just do it for the kids, they do it for the families so the cycle of poverty just grinds to a stop and the kids can achieve.”

“The kids here, what they see from the United Way is that there are people out there who care, that poverty can be ended, and that they can achieve something greater than what they thought before. It gives them the capacity to understand that they can also make a difference. In our school too that caring leads to us going out into the community and doing things to give back. In the winter, we have a snow patrol. It started as that block over there and now we will shovel all the way from sixty-sixth, all the way over to the school here and up the side streets. We take a period and everyone goes out with shovels. There’s a lot of older families here who can’t shovel their own walks, so we just do it. Those little things are inspired by the kids’ desire to give back because they see that that’s part of what a good Canadian citizen does.”


To commemorate the 75th anniversary of the United Way of the Alberta Capital Region we've partnered with Faces of Edmonton. In the coming months, Faces of Edmonton will be featuring faces and stories relating to the United Way and its work in your community. We’re looking forward to sharing these portraits and stories with you. To learn more about United Way's work check out the Report to Community online.